Disney Disney Disney

Those of you who know me well know that I do not like to dwell on the sad things in life. I like to stay hopeful, optimistic, and most of all, HAPPY! And the thing that makes me most happy is when Rayleigh Bug is happy!!! And we are so fortunate that she has had so many happy moments these past couple of months!

Michael and I saved up and got tickets for Disney on Ice! We went to the box office to buy the tickets so that we could see where the seats would be and the wheelchair accessibility. I am SO glad we did! Rayleigh's (and her parents') seats were in the second row! We bought the tickets right behind the VIP section so that Rayleigh could easily keep up with the motions and make out the characters. We were telling Rayleigh all about what the show would be like and even found some video previews to show her. I think she knew something exciting was coming up! 

The day of the show she had occupational therapy in the morning and then took a nap and then she was ready to go!! We opted for the evening showing because we knew we'd have the best chance of her being alert at that time - and for the first time in forever, things finally went her way! {See what I did there with the Frozen music? hehe!}

Frozen Clothes from Bow to Toes!

Disney on Ice is during our State Fair so we spent a little time seeing the sights before the show. Fair Selfie!

She got her face painted at the fair to really really get ready for the show!

The show was about 2 hours long. She was TOTALLY ENGAGED the entire time!! She did not have a single seizure during the show! She was actually wiggling and doing her amazing, excited squeal!! I'm not going to lie, I totally teared up a couple of times when I saw how stinking happy she was! It is the most heart-warming memory I can think of. That Rayleigh. She loved Disney on Ice: Frozen!

So totally into it!

Rayleigh loved when the snow fell! And we were close enough that some flurries even landed on her!

Which takes me right to her Make a Wish. Make a Wish is a wonderful organization makes wishes come true for children with life-threatening medical conditions. Our sweet Bug has been approved to have her wish granted! We went over a list of things she might like or greatly benefit from; like a bedroom makeover, backyard play area, iPad and accessories, and of course, Disney. We just kept going back to a trip to Disney World. Rayleigh loves princesses, Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, Disney movies and she also loves being outdoors, walking around, and swinging, spinning, and bouncing. 

After seeing how much Rayleigh enjoyed Disney on Ice: Frozen, we KNEW Disney World is what Bug wants!! 

We recently met Rayleigh Bug's AMAZING Wish Sponsors, McClayn and Nicole. I'm not exaggerating when I say amazing, you guys! They have such big hearts and want to make this Wish as best as it can be for our girl! We are soo happy to have them! 

Rayleigh with McClayn & Nicole - they brought her those Minnie Mouse ears!

When we met with them, they said that we could answer 4 Wish questions to best determine Bug's Wish. Obviously, Disney was already a major possibility. You fill in the blank for: "I Wish to Be...", "I Wish to Meet...", "I Wish to Go...", and "I Wish to Have..."
Here are Rayleigh's answers:
1.) I Wish to Be a Princess
2.) I Wish to Meet a Princess
3.) I Wish to Go to Disney World
4.) I Wish to Have an iPad


Well, Michael and I decided that we can save up for a little while and eventually get her an older generation iPad - but we could never ever do Disney World the way that Make a Wish can do it for Rayleigh. So there you have it. The Cains will soon be taking their girl to Disney World with a huge thanks to McClayn, Nicole, and the team at Make a Wish Oklahoma!!! YAY!!!

Thoughts of Grief Not Often Shared

Tonight I am sad. Tonight I let the tears fall. I try to keep this blog full of hope; an uplifting view of our journey with very few moments of despair typed and shared out. But tonight, my heart hurts.

Rayleigh is fine. Today was an ordinary day for us, but that doesn't mean that sadness and grief don't show their ugly heads. 

This morning I discovered that Rayleigh has a loose tooth! Michael and I were giggling and joking and playing with our girl - telling her that she's growing too quickly and that the tooth fairy will be watching and waiting! This evening I noticed that she actually has TWO loose teeth! When I found that second wiggly little tooth I smiled and told my Bug about it and then left the room and became frozen. Fear hit me like a punch to the gut, I don't know where it came from. Her growing up? Possibly swallowing a tooth? Will they grow back in? I have no idea where it came from. Looking back, it seems illogical and silly, random at best. But my heart was racing and I was wishing that I didn't just learn that my girl has 2 loose teeth. It's silly, I know. All kids lose their baby teeth, why did it freak me out? I'm still not sure. That feeling left as fast as it came, but it stirred up some emotions I had building up. Like how when a spouse leaves one dish out and suddenly you are fighting about everything that's ticked you off for months! 

Let me backtrack to shed some light on the little things that piled up on an already overwhelming, unsteady pile of emotions on my heart: Shortly before occupational therapy today Bug had a big seizure. She stayed awake and did pretty well at therapy, but was tired from the seizure and a little out of it so she wasn't able to utilize the full effects of that 45 minute session. No big deal. In fact, I left there proud of how strong my Bug is!

Then she had her second seizure of the day about 2 hours later in the waiting room for her swallow study. {A swallow study is when a person eats different consistencies of foods in front of an x-ray to see how well they swallow and if they aspirate.} Rayleigh did not get to do the swallow study after all the waiting because she fell asleep! The speech therapist was so kind and squeezed us in for another try next week. Prayers that we will be able to successfully do the test are so appreciated!! 

So really, she's only had 3 seizures today and enjoyed the day. I just wanted to share this moment, this feeling because every single moment of every single day isn't always smiles. Not for anyone. And this journey is hard, but I get Rayleigh, and that makes it so worth it. We read stories in bed and now my girl is drifting off listening to children's lullaby music. And I'm just a wreck wondering what the future holds and trying to make the best of every day with this beautiful girl.

Thank you for letting me share my heart tonight. I'm feeling better already. Now to close this laptop and snuggle up that angel!

So Many Changes in a Few Short Months

Our family has been very busy keeping up with lots of moving parts in this journey we are on! Since my post in July Rayleigh has started school, is completely off Banzel, now gets real food through her feeding tube instead of formula, is on a slightly increased dose of Charlotte's Web, had family photos done, went to Disney on Ice, has in-home nursing, went on her first field trip, and is getting a wish granted by Make a Wish of Oklahoma! 

Whoa.

Real quick, here are some of my favorites from this year's family photo session!

Family photos for us are bittersweet. We love love love capturing our beautiful girl in pictures to make memories that will last forever. On the other hand, it is one of those things that makes us painfully aware of her disabilities. Obviously, no one is more aware of her disabilities than Michael and I, but we are so involved every single day that it has just become life. A beautiful, meaningful life that we love belonging to. But several things in life make us think, "Dang, that was hard". For family photos, it was because we couldn't just sit her on the ground and tell her to smile, or pick any pose we like. Every single pose had to be thought through: "How will we hold Rayleigh?", "Can't do that, she doesn't have enough head control", "She's too big for that kind of pose but not able to do the older-kid kind of poses"... 
Luckily, we had a wonderful and very patient photographer who would allow us to get in poses we typically do with Rayleigh or ones I found online that I thought we could do. Some worked out great, others... not so much. Nevertheless, I am so pleased with this year's batch of family photos and am so grateful to have these memories! 


Now to the update: Poor little Rayleigh's body is still adjusting to the medicine wean of Banzel. It has been about 1 month since her last dose. We weaned very slowly and the wean went really well. We saw very little withdrawal, and when seizures would increase from withdrawal she would stabilize and get to her baseline after only a couple of days. She is still very tired after seizures and even when she only has a few a day, the post-seizure-naps can wreck up a day. We tried to take her to the science museum on Monday but as soon as we checked in she had her first big seizure of the day so we turned around and came home so she could get a good nap. This is not abnormal for our life.

After the final dose of Banzel we saw withdrawal symptoms come and go for several weeks. At this point, she has had 4 good days in a row so we are hopeful that she is fully stabilizing (knock on wood!). She is having less than 5 seizures on a good day, but still up to 10 of her bigger 3 minute complex partial seizures on a bad day. Two weeks ago we increased her Charlotte's Web Hemp Oil by a tiny amount, Rayleigh starts to show changes from the hemp oil at around 3 weeks so I'm excited to see what comes about - because, again, she has had 4 good days in row ;) 

School is going well! Buggie currently goes half days as we don't think she could tolerate a full day of activities right now. She loves the music, art, circle time, and of course being around people! 

First Day of School - Yes, she was asleep when we left home!

But she woke up when class was about to begin!

Her first field trip was last week and I think she really enjoyed it! It was a windy day at a Pumpkin Patch farm. Rayleigh got to pet different animals, pick out pumpkins and go on a hayride with her school friends!

I'll do a separate post on Disney on Ice and Rayleigh's Make a Wish. They are too much fun to squeeze into an update-post! I'll just leave you with this sneak peek picture from the day we met Rayleigh's sponsors!